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A get (Hebrew: גט, plural gittin גיטין) is a divorce document, which according to Jewish Law, must be presented by a husband to his wife to effect their divorce. The essential text of the get is quite short: "You are hereby permitted to all men," i.e., the wife is no longer a married woman, and the laws of adultery no longer apply. The get also returns to the wife the legal rights which a husband holds in regard to his wife in a Jewish marriage.
The biblical term for the divorce document, described in Hebrew: ספר כריתת). The origin of the word get is unclear. According to Shiltei Giborim (mentioned in the talmudic dictionary Aruch HaShalem S.V. Get), it refers to the stone agate which purportedly has some form of anti-magnetic property symbolizing the divorce. The Gaon of Vilna has mentioned that the Hebrew letters of Gimel and Tet of the word get are the only letters of the Hebrew alphabet that cannot make a word together, again symbolizing the divorce. Another possible explanation is that of Rabbi Baruch Epstein who states that it comes from the Latin word Act which refers to any legal document. In fact in the Mishna, get can refer to any legal document although it refers primarily to a divorce document. (Tosefet Beracha to Ki Tisa), is "Sefer Keritut", (
Rabbi Yechiel Yaakov Weinberg posits that after the Bar Kochba revolt the Romans decreed that all documents be processed in a Roman court (in order to weaken Jewish nationalism). The term "get" may have entered the vernacular language during this time.
Halakha requires specific formalities for a get to be considered valid.
A divorce document must be written; this is usually done by a professional religious scribe, a sofer. It must have been written on the explicit instruction and free-willed approval of the husband, with the specific intention that it is to be used by the man and for the specific woman. (It cannot be initially written with blanks to be filled in later.)
It must be delivered to the wife, whose physical acceptance of the get is required to complete and validate the divorce process.
There are certain detailed requirements relating to the legal and religious nature of the get itself. For example:
- It must be written on a fresh document, and there must be no possibility of cleanly erasing the text.
- It may not be written on anything which is attached to the ground (for instance, a fig leaf).
- The get may not be pre-dated.
Any deviation from these requirements invalidates the get and the divorce procedure.
A get must be given of the free will of the husband; however, consent of the wife is not Biblically mandated (nevertheless, Ashkenazic tradition provides that a husband may not divorce his wife without her consent). A get may not be given out of fear of any obligation either party undertook to fulfill in a separation agreement. Such an agreement may provide for matters such as custody of the children and their maintenance, and property settlement. But either party may withdraw from such an agreement, on the question of the dissolution of the marriage only, if they can satisfy the court of a genuine desire to restore matrimonial harmony. In such a situation all the recognised matrimonial obligations continue to apply. On the other hand, pecuniary conditions stipulated by the parties in the separation agreement would still be valid and enforceable, though the marriage state continues to exist.
Refusal to provide a get
The laws of gittin only provide for a divorce initiated by the husband. However, the wife has the right to sue for divorce in a rabbinical court. The court, finding just cause, will require the husband to divorce his wife.
Historically, a husband who refused the court's demand that he divorce his wife would be subjected to various penalties in order to pressure him into granting a divorce. Such penalties included excommunication, monetary punishments, and corporal punishment--including forcing the husband to spend the night at an unmarked grave (with the implication that it could become his grave). Today, however, rabbinical courts outside of Israel do not have sufficient power to enforce such penalties. This sometimes leads to a situation in which the husband makes demands of the court and of his wife, demanding a monetary settlement or other benefits, such as child custody, in exchange for the get. Jewish feminists have characterized such demands as "ransom."
Sometimes a man will completely refuse to grant a divorce. This leaves his wife with no possibility of remarriage within Orthodox Judaism. Such a woman is called a mesorevet get (literally "refused a divorce"). A man who refuses to give his wife a get is frequently spurned by the Orthodox community, and excluded from communal religious activities. It is hoped that this pressure will encourage him to grant the divorce.
While it is widely assumed that the problem lies primarily in men refusing to grant the get to their wives and that it is a widespread issue, in Israel, figures released from the chief rabbinate show that men are equally victimized and that the numbers are a couple of hundred on each side.
The rules governing the get are subject to the civil law of the country which has precedence over the Jewish marital law.
On the other hand, if a civil divorce is obtained, there is still an obligation under Jewish law, for the Jewish divorce procedure outlined in this article to be followed: i.e., the husband would still need to deliver the get to the wife and the wife to accept it. Otherwise, the couple may be divorced under the civil law ("the law of the land") while still be considered to be married under Jewish law, with all the consequences which follow from that status.
New York get laws
- 1983 Get Law : Domestic Relations Law §253
- 1992 Get Law : DRL §236 (B)(5)(h) and DRL §236 (B)(6)(d)
One of the most contentious gitin in history was probably the "Get of Cleves" of the late 18th century, which caused a rift between several rabbinic courts in Western Europe. The case involved a husband who at times exhibited signs of mental illness (quite possibly what might now be diagnosed as paranoia) who gave his wife a Get. As a Get can only be given by a "sane" individual, much analysis and debate ensued regarding how to classify this individual as well as the precise definition of insanity in Halakha.
- Seridei Eish 3:134
- Society must shun divorce-deniers
- "Rabbinate Stats: 180 Women, 185 Men 'Chained' by Spouses". Israelnationalnews. 2007-08-23. http://www.israelnationalnews.com/News/News.aspx/123472. Retrieved 2007-08-26.
- Strous QX
Literary and Media references
- Krich, Rochelle Majer Till Death Do Us Part (1992) ISBN 0-380-76533-0
- A Serious Man, the 2009 Coen Brothers film, utilizes the Get as a recurring plot device
- Divorce in Judaism
- Divorce at Jewish Virtual Library
- Jewish Divorce and the Role of Beit Din, Jewish Law (1999) Rabbi Jonathan Reiss
- Guidelines for working with a Beth Din